Campbell County, Kentucky

My next county to visit was Campbell County, across the Ohio River from Cincinnati, Ohio. It's a lot like Camden, New Jersey, across the Delaware from Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. Philadelphia is bigger than Cincinnati, and the Ohio River is not as wide as the tidal Delaware at Philadelphia. Newport is one of the two county seats in Campbell County, and is on the river. 

December is a hard time to travel. The days are short; the weather is iffy. We also were just back from a week in Memphis at the end of November and are off again, this time to New York, on December 21. 

I picked Saturday, the tenth, and Monday the twelfth to travel, and Sunday to explore. This was my first trip to a Republican county since the election, and although I considered not visiting counties that voted that way, I decided to go with my original idea, which was to see everyplace, good and bad.

Like driving to Camden, unless one wants to take a whole lot of time, the distance is more than three hundred miles, my limit. Camden is mostly east and a little bit north; Newport is mostly west and a little bit south. 

I stayed with my usual chain, in a building on the river. It looks like that whole area may be a redeveloped industrial area, with a shopping center and movie complex, the motel and new loft apartment buildings. One can easily walk across a pedestrian bridge into downtown Cincinnati from there, although it is a bit cut off from the center of Newport.

I traveled north from Morgantown to Washington, Pennsylvania, then west to Wheeling and Columbus and southwest to Cincinnati. It was dark and snowing to Columbus, then sunny and clearer, but cold from there. On the way back, I headed east from Cincinnati to Athens, Parkersburg and Clarksburg, then north to Morgantown. The weather was better going back.

From past experience, I knew there was a good Chinese buffet in Zanesville and Union Street Diner in Athens, and I stopped at the buffet on the way in and the diner on the way back. 

There are sixty places on The National Register in Campbell County. I reluctantly decided to visit only a random ten of them, but as I had time Sunday, I walked around in the late afternoon in Newport. It was about 25 F. in the morning, then warmed up, with some drizzle, to about 40.

Saturday night, I walked to a chain diner, not far from the hotel. It was cheap, but not especially good food. I asked the waitress if the string beans had bacon in them, and she verified that they did. I learned to ask from traveling in the south. It was still early, so I walked through town a bit before heading back to plan Sunday's jaunt.

The view of the Cincinnati skyline from my room

Holiday lights on a street in Newport, Saturday night.

East Newport Historic District

York St Historic District, Newport

mid-century bank building, Monmouth St, Newport

new housing, central Newport, looking old

former library building Monmouth Avenue

Marianne Theater, Bellevue, east of Newport

Dayton School, Dayton, now apartments

Newport-On-The -Levee shopping district

Northern Kentucky University, Highland Heights

There was probably a mistake in directions for the first historic place I tried to find, but I found this interesting modern house instead  near Alexandria

Camp Springs was a nineteenth century German settlement. This is Blau's Four-Mile House

Kort Grocery, Camp Springs, 1880

County Courthouse, Alexandria, now a museum. There were attempts to move the county seat to Alexandria, closer to the central part of the county. Both Alexandria and Newport are listed as county seats

St. John The Baptist Catholic Church, Wilder, 19th century

Sauser Farm House, near Alexandria

Homes at Ft. Thomas, a military installation from 1890. Each house is now privately owned

The Walking Bridge, connecting Newport and Cincinnati

New "loft-style" apartments on the Ohio river in Newport

Newport to Cincinnati highway bridge, from the Walking Bridge

Campbell County Courthouse, Newport

Colonel James Taylor Mansion, Newport

Mansion Historic District, Newport

Historic Homes in Newport

I can't explain the Israeli flag on this house

Sunday after breakfast, I drove to Northern Kentucky University, a 1968 addition to the state's university system, in Highland Heights, south of Newport. It was cold and cloudy out. As the day went on, it got warmer and darker. Like Camden County, Campbell is narrow and extends south into the countryside. I visited Camp Springs, a 19th century German settlement, then detoured south to Alexandria, a quaint little town, with a southern-style courthouse, now a museum. I found a German Catholic church in Wilder, now in the suburbs, and a farm near Alexandria.

By lunchtime, I was in hilly, pretty Ft. Thomas, more populous than Newport. The 1890 fort has been sold off, and I found an officer's house for sale for just under four hundred thousand dollars. I stopped for lunch at a sports bar, where I had a chicken sandwich with marinara sauce and cheese, and peppery french fries. It was forty and drizzling out. People at the bar were watching the Cincinnati Bengals play the Cleveland Browns, who have apparently not won a game in years.We could see snow accumulating on the players' helmets, as it was 20 F. in Cleveland.

Back in Newport by around 2 P.M., I decided to walk around the city to find more historic places.By 4, cold and wet, I returned to the motel for a nap.

At the movies on the levee, a few blocks from where I stayed, they were showing a Bollywood movie shot in Paris, called Befikre, starring Ranveer Singh and Vaani Kapoor. The film is mostly in Hindi, subtitled, but with a good bit of English and French thrown in. I drove over for the 6:15 show. Only three other people were in the theater. The film, a silly romantic story, with beautiful actors, music, dancing, and sunny Paris, lifted my spirits.

After the movie, I bought snacks at a nearby Kroger, and had a late feast in my room. I enjoyed Campbell County, despite feeling guilty about not visiting more diverse and more Jewish Cincinnati, which was right there.

The pics are out of order in some cases, because I shot some with my camera, and others on my cell phone. It is difficult to get them arranged just right.

Thanksgiving, Memphis, 2016

There is a new, semi-secret group on Facebook called "Pantsuit Nation." It's mostly women and mostly Hillary Clinton supporters. A Morgantown friend from California, who moved back to California last summer, added me to the group. There is also a West Virginia chapter. Most of the posts are from people who have been victims of hate crimes and discriminatory behavior. Often, posters ran out of a family Thanksgiving dinner because of something awful a parent or sibling said to them. It might have been a racial comment, or a refusal to accept the poster's same-gender spouse.

Joe and I are lucky, or perhaps blessed. I have one cousin who, from what I hear, is a big Republican. That cousin hasn't spoken to me since my mother's death nearly fourteen years ago. Just as well. Neither Joe nor I have political issues with our closest family members. We are always treated respectfully. We are all distraught about the 2016 Presidential election.

It was my sister's turn to have us for Thanksgiving this year, but there were complications, both for her and for us. Joe wanted to attend his family's grand Thanksgiving dinner in Memphis. We drove 210 miles to Greenbelt, Maryland Sunday and had a pre-Thanksgiving meal with my sister, her son and his fiancée. My nephew then went off to his girl's parents in Ohio, and, as a bonus, they left their sweet dog with my sister, where I was able to spend time with him.

We scored a non-stop flight from Baltimore to Memphis Tuesday, stayed at a suburban motel (with one free night), and rented a car. Although we asked for the cheapest, smallest car available, we left the lot in a gorgeous cherry-red 2017 Dodge Challenger with a hemi engine. I became fond of the car.

Joe's aunt and uncle and sister in Memphis have been great to me since I met them nine years ago, in what I see now as a ritual, bringing your new significant other for the family's inspection. Joe and his late mother were the oldest in his family, and I am older than Joe, so the "old" aunt and uncle are not much older than  I am. We were nineteen family members at Thanksgiving.

A cousin's husband is an executive with the Memphis Grizzlies, so we spent Friday at a basketball game. We ate at many restaurants, mostly on Joe's uncle's dime. We saw a few movies, including "Loving" about an interracial couple arrested for being in love. We noted the connection to our non-traditional marriage.

Finally, we attended a rally against hate, held in a once-abandoned church, where Martin Luther King, Jr. spoke in 1968, just before he was murdered. It's a beautiful place, almost literally falling down, a reminder of history and the passage of time. There were religious leaders of all stripes, including the rabbi from Memphis' Reform synagogue. There were speakers from immigrant communities, an LGBT center, the ACLU and Planned Parenthood. Memphis is a multi-cultural, largely African-American city in an overwhelmingly conservative state. People are frightened by the rhetoric of the incoming administration, the backward-looking picks for cabinet posts, and the liberty now felt by racists, homophobes and neo-Nazis to speak out. Older African-Americans have been through this before, The spiritual presence of Dr. King was there in that former church to give us all hope. I attended a Rally For Change here in Morgantown Wednesday night after we got back. That rally was more about enacting specific political change here.

I loved being in Memphis. In addition to Joe's extended family. I found the people outgoing and friendly. I felt more "at home" in Memphis and in Greenbelt, in Prince George's County, Maryland, where my sister lives, than I do in Morgantown.

Our congregation here in Morgantown is still lovely, and although the county voted majority for the Republican presidential candidate, there is a core of people of good will, who are willing to fight the hateful troglodytes who have come out of the woodwork since the election. Joe and I will live here for the forseeable future, and be activists for equality.We have no other choice.

We have already attended two meetings (today is Sunday, December 4) in the five days since we returned from Thanksgiving. The meeting Wednesday was political, the one today was an interfaith council. Things are in the works here.

We'll be off to New York for an extended visit at the end of the year. New York is another spiritual home for us.

With Joe on Beale Street

Brister Library at The University of Memphis

Singing along with the Hamples at Thanksgiving

Shelby County Courthouse

Joe and his sister at the pedestrian crossing of the Mississippi River, next to an old railroad bridge

Shelby Farms Park, east of Memphis

Rabbi Micah Greenstein speaking at the interfaith event in Memphis

Boyce-Gregg House, now The Community Resource Center

We are looking cool with our boss 2017 Hemi-powered Dodge Challenger

Camden County, New Jersey

I had planned to leave town for four days after the election to visit Camden County, New Jersey, almost three hundred miles from Morgantown on old Mapquest, where you could choose between "shortest" and "fastest" routes. The short way was under 300 miles; the fast way, 311 miles. Old Mapquest is gone now, so, under new rules, it's too far for me to visit.

The news Wednesday morning was awful, especially that in all counties in West Virginia, including Monongalia, the majority voted for the Republican candidate for President. My visit out-of-state seemed more important than before. I was afraid of what I might say to people around here.

I booked a cheap motel, part of my usual chain, in Bellmawr, a suburb right off the New Jersey Turnpike, at exit 3. If you look for motels in Camden, they will first show you downtown Philadelphia, just across the Delaware River from downtown Camden. I spent less for four nights in the 'burbs than I would have on one night in downtown Philadelphia.

I usually look for ten historic places per day, so twenty on this trip. But since many of them were within a few blocks in downtown Camden, I thought I would up the ante and look for a total of thirty places. There are 93 historic places on the National Register in Camden County.

I arrived late afternoon Wednesday, checked in and napped, then went out to a diner just up the road from the motel. It had been raining and cold most of the day. I was not sure this whole thing was going to work out. But the diner was one of those aluminum and faux wood paneling places with dinner specials for $10.99 including soup or salad, and dessert. The waitress, skinny, blonde and tattooed, asked me how I was doing. I could barely speak, but I finally said "I'm not doing that well." She was sympathetic. The food was plentiful, but just okay. Still, I started to feel at home. The diner was crowded and noisy, and just seemed so...urban, I guess. I started to relax.

And I guess that is the theme of this trip- being more relaxed. There are more than two hundred thousand people in a relatively small area, with Camden city, and boroughs and townships ranging from poor to well-off. There are synagogues of all stripes in Cherry Hill, a vibrant Puerto Rican commercial district on the east side of Camden, malls, restaurants, friendly people. Many of the people are Jewish, Italian, African-American, Puerto Rican. There is a gay community. The county mostly voted Democratic in the election Tuesday.

The City of Camden is in the northwestern part of the county, which has an oblong shape running northwest to southeast to close to the ocean near Atlantic City. I spent Thursday moving from the south end of the county to the north, running through my list of historic places. Unlike Philadelphia, which was a big city at the time of the American Revolution, southern New Jersey was rural. There weren't major places like Independence Hall or the Liberty Bell. There were some nineteenth century towns in the south, with a few older farmhouses mixed in. In the farther-out towns (boroughs in New Jersey) I saw a few Trump signs around. The weather both days was sunny and breezy, with a high in the 50s Thursday to about 60 Friday. The autumn leaves were near their peak.

Haddonfield is the one late 18th century town in the county. I saw an independent bookstore , and a little café, and thought about stopping. I took one picture, and went on. It all looked a little too precious for my taste.

Just north of there is Cherry Hill township, a giant mid-century suburb, like where I grew up in northwest Baltimore County, only much bigger and better. I stopped for lunch at Wegman's, the best grocery store in the country, jammed with people eating from the $9.99 per pound buffet. I had finally gone native. From there, I headed to Collingswood, an early twentieth century borough, close in to Camden, with row houses, larger frame houses, and an old-fashioned shopping street now filled with trendy stores (gourmet pastries, anyone?). At that point, it was three P.M., and I headed back to the motel for a nap. Unfortunately the hotel is on a major truck route connecting the New Jersey Turnpike to parallel Interstate 295, I didn't get a lot of sleep.

Once I was fully awake, I went looking for a mall I had seen in the morning, figuring to eat at the food court. I managed to get to Voorhees Town Center, south of the turnpike, not too far from where I stayed. This was one of those slowly dying malls, with lots of empty space. They have a Macy's and Boscovs, a more local department store. I walked around the mall; I can't remember what I ate there. I found a Camden County office, still open, with people waiting for some kind of interview, and the person in charge gave me a detailed street map of the county. This should have helped me more than it did. I got out of the mall on the wrong street, and wandered around for about an hour before finding my way back to my motel. Since the hotel had a minimal continental breakfast, I stopped at a supermarket, and bought two cartons of yogurt, two pieces of fruit and two bagels, real northeastern bagels, one of each for a late snack and one for breakfast Friday.

I told someone in my OLLI class about going to Camden after the election. The woman was from Philadelphia, and told me not to get out of my car in Camden because it was so dangerous. Having lived in downtown Baltimore, in central Los Angeles, in Miami and New Orleans, I brushed her off.

South Broadway in Camden, where there was once a commercial district, does look terrible. There are some great old buildings, but empty lots and vacant houses and storefronts are ubiquitous. The population is mostly African-American. I wondered about all the coming coddling of white working class people due to the Republican victory, and wondered why the people here have been neglected, and I wonder still who will look out for them in the next four years. Farther downtown, Market Street runs about a mile from City Hall to the Delaware River, directly across from booming downtown Philadelphia. At the waterfront is an aquarium, mobbed with people on this Veteran's Day holiday, with kids out of school. There is also a campus of Rutgers University. I found the Walt Whitman House, a museum, closed for the holiday. There are some streets where trees have been planted and houses fixed up- modest row houses like one might see in Baltimore. I drove to the north end of town, where there was supposed to be a historic ship, which I couldn't find, and to the east end of town, predominantly Puerto Rican, with more people and little shops.

There is a bridge over a creek at theeast end of town, and suddenly I was in Merchantville, a beautiful leafy suburb with grand old houses, and a small commercial district. It was lunchtime, so I stopped at a little Japanese restaurant, and had a yummy plate of hibachi chicken, rice and vegetables. Four people worked there: the sushi chef, who was Chinese, as was the woman out front. I suppose there was a cook, and a burly, bearded guy doing deliveries. An HYM sat at the counter near me (Handsome Young Man, not that I noticed). The workers knew him, as well as some of the people who came in for carry-out. They included me in the conversation, which surprised me. People in West Virginia often won't talk to you unless your grandmother and theirs went to school together.

I found one last historic place in Pennsauken, the township on the Delaware at the north end of the county. It was only 2:30. I couldn't get on the road I wanted because of a complicated interchange, but I stopped for gas, looked at the map, and figured it all out. The guy at the gas station was a Sikh. He pumped the gas for me, as self-service is illegal in New Jersey.

I needed to replace the corduroy sport coat I brought with me for Friday night services, because, after five, maybe six years, it looked shabby. I headed to Cherry Hill Mall. I was with the people of the area. What does everyone do on a sunny warm (for November) holiday afternoon, a national holiday in commemoration of the sacrifices of our veterans? Right. They go shopping. Mobs of people looking for bargains in the first sale day of the holiday season. It's a lovely mall, anchored by J.C. Penney, Macy's and Nordstrom. The crowd was wildly eclectic, from tattooed gangsters to thin stylish matrons, hip-hop types, kids, bunches of teens, all races and ethnicities, everyone out for a good time. I tried to find a jacket at Penney's, at Macy's, at Nordstrom, Hugo Boss, Armani Exchange. I felt rich at Nordstrom, but not rich enough to buy their on-sale store brand plain blazer for $295.00. Nothing fir me at Armani and Hugo Boss- they design for tall skinny men- I knew that going in. I finally bought a $200 corduroy jacket, similar to the one i have, on sale for $49.99 at Penney's.

It was already 4 P.M., so I hurried back about ten miles to the motel to sleep a little. It was my intent to go to the 7:30 "Kristallnacht" shabbat service at  Temple Emanuel in Cherry Hill. I skipped dinner and found the temple at about 7, giving me time to rush out for "dinner." That turned out to be a bagel with light cream cheese from Dunkin' Donuts, which I ate in the car just before services started.

They have  a beautiful 1960ish modern sanctuary, not fancy, but well done. Maybe seventy-five people, mostly older, came. They have two rabbis, a cantor and an accompanist. Only one rabbi was there, and the accompanist played an electric keyboard and sang. Most of the service was English. The rabbi opened with something non-partisan about the frustration of the election and how some were happy some not (mostly not, from what I could see there) and how we all need to come together. They called up all the veterans for a special blessing. The youngest was probably 70, a Viet Nam veteran, most were older. Young Jewish men do not go in the Armed Forces since the draft ended.
In remembrance of Kristallnacht, the night in 1938 when Jewish businesses were attacked throughout Germany, a local Holocaust survivor, Ernest Kaufman, spoke. Although he is 96 years old, he spoke clearly and stood straight, as he told us a piece of his story. It is humbling to hear what people like him saw and lived through, how they were the only ones to survive, the great strength, luck and optimistic attitude needed to pick up, start over and not be bitter. I'm sure I'm not the only one who thought about the Neo-Nazis and Ku Klux Klanners who have been emboldened by the Republican presidential campaign and the election. results I was thinking about how bad things might get here, how Germans in the early 1930s could not imagine the horrors that later occurred. Looking back, we can see how things happened, and how it could happen here after all.

A woman greeted me when I came in to the synagogue, and handed me a program and some flyers, but before and after services no one spoke to me. That wouldn't happen at our Tree of Life Congregation.After services I ate a chocolate rugallah and some fruit at the oneg, had a cup of decaf and took my evening meal pills. I chatted up the accompanist, complimenting him on his singing. He's a tall skinny guy, sixty-one, he said. He is bald with a shaved head and lives in Philadelphia, in Society Hill, the good downtown neighborhood. The rabbi saw us talking and came over to greet me. I told him I was the "rebbitzin" (rabbi's wife) in Morgantown, and how I came to be in Cherry Hill, and at that congregation. I also spoke to the Mr. Kaufman, who told me about joining the US Armed Forces and working as a translator for political prisoners during World War II. He was a poultry farmer in southern New Jersey after the war.

I got back to the hotel about 10 and crashed. Saturday I was back on the road, this time starting from downtown Camden about 10 A.M., paying the $21 toll on the Pennsylvania Turnpike, arriving home about 4 P.M.

I loved being in an ethnically diverse, urban-suburban, friendly community. If I sound like  Morgantown is not that, well, it's not. I'm bitter and sorrowful about the election, worried about being gay and Jewish in this outpost. Strategically, there are people here who want to make at least Morgantown a progressive place, if not the rest of West Virginia. For the short term, that is a goal worth fighting for.

Club Diner, Bellmawr, New Jersey

Historic District, Berlin Borough

A bed and breakfast in Blackwood Historic District, Gloucester Township

Chew-Powell House, originally 1688, Gloucester Township

Gabreil Daveis Tavern, 1756, used as a hospital in the American Revolution, Gloucester Township

Glendale Methodist Episcopal Church, 1855, Voorhees Township

Greenfield Hall, 1747, Haddonfield Borough

Barclay Farm House, 1816, Cherry Hill Township

Bonnie's Bridge, Cherry Hill

Commercial District, Collingswood Borough

Residential District, Collingswood

Camden Talmud Torah, now a church

former Camden Talmud Torah

former Broadway Trust Company, Camden

Carnegie-donated former Camden Main Library, 1905, sign says it will be restored

Walt Whitman House and Neighborhood, downtown Camden, now a museum

Camden Safe Deposit and Trust, 1929

Federal Building, Camden- this might be a newer addition

National State Bank Building, Camden, 1913

detail, RCA Building 17

RCA Victor Building 17, now "The Victor" loft apartments, Camden, 1909-1916

View across the Delaware River to Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

Cooper Library in Johnson Park, Camden, 1916, now part of Rutgers University

Edward Sharp House, 1810, Camden

Rutgers University Campus, Camden

House in The Oaks Historic District, Merchantville

mid-century modern in The Oaks

Arthur Dorrance House, Merchantville. Dorrance was the president of Campbell Soup, once headquartered in Camden

Burrough-Dover House, 1710, Pennsauken Township

Discrimination prohibited in more categories in New Jersey than in West Virginia

Santa's House, Cherry Hill Mall

Lego Store, Cherry Hill Mall

modeling my new sport coat

I Wish This Would Be Over Soon (But I Know It Won't Be)

Comments last night and this morning on Facebook: There was a post about the Republican woman running for state treasurer in West Virginia, and people were supporting her in the comments. I should have kept my mouth shut, but I said "I never vote for Republicans."
Responder1: "Isn't time (sic) for change?"

Me:"Yes. Let's vote out the Republicans in West Virginia. I'm in a same-gender marriage. I can't afford to have haters trying to overturn that. And no, I don't vote for Democrats who would overturn my marriage, either."

Responder 2: "Barry's gonna vote for Hitlery (sic) who wants to flood America with hundreds of muslims (sic). Barry, you know they'll want to throw you from the roof of a tall building to splat on the concrete below. You Libs are crazy! You should let some refugees move in with you . Maybe you can change them."

Responder 2 (again):"Republicans won't let 'em do that to ya, Barry. We'll keep the animals away!"

Me; "You are full of crap,[name]. That minister in Iowa they all visited wants us all killed. The Republicans have never been any kind of friend to gays. None of us are that stupid."

Me (again): "And calling people 'animals' who are fleeing for their lives is not something I, as a religious person, can abide. It further proves how debased conversations by Republicans are. Have a nice day."

No comment from the candidate whose page this was on.

Someone else suggested I read the Bible, because I can't be gay and religious. I said "It doesn't say that," and suggested he read about helping the poor, healing the sick, and welcoming the stranger.

Then there were comments, possibly deleted, about how the church bombing in Mississippi and the graffiti that said "Vote Trump" could not have been done by Trump supporters.

Respondent 1: "the clintons have instigated violence before, plus who tf writes vote trump lmao seems like a dumb move that the clinton campaign and the Democracy Partners and Americans United for Changes SuperPACs would do" (exactly like that)

There are lots of folks out there who do write grammatically and sound like they know what they're saying. One was astonished when I called him an anti-Semite. Why? Because he said Hillary Clinton voted for war in Iraq because "Israel told her to." I asked for (but didn't get) proof that his statement was valid.

I wrote most of that in my OLLI writing group Thursday, before the election. After the Jewish holidays, six weeks of OLLI classes, and the election, I planned to be away four days on my own. Joe and I are spending time with our families in Memphis, metro D.C. and New York between now and the end of the year. I needed time to be on my own.

As everyone knows, the election did not go as most of us hoped. We woke up on the anniversary of Kristallnacht, to find someone who had used Fascist-type rhetoric, consorted with blatant racists, and lied repeatedly, elected President because a minority of the population doesn't like Hillary.

I've read all the calls to prayer, heard him say he wants to President for everyone and we should all come together, and nice words from Mr. Obama and Mrs. Clinton. I don't think so.

I don''t actually know what to do. I'm too old and weak to be out demonstrating, and I don't think it will do any good. I'm not anxious to leave the country, not yet. And Joe likes his job in West Virginia, where Mr. Trump won a majority in every county, although a smaller majority in Monongalia County, where we live, than in any other in the state. Small comfort.

Most of the places I have visited on my monthly visits voted for him. I've seen many depressed places. Now they've blown up the country. I'm tempted to just walk away and tell them to deal with the mess they've created. Or maybe restrict where I visit in the future, like my parents, who only visited New York and South Florida, because they didn't know where else Jews would be welcomed.

Locally, we got two more  Democrats in the state legislature, the two least progressive of the four non-incumbents who could have won. The two of us who were the most progressive got knocked off in the primary.

There's a lot of talk about understanding the frustrations of working-class white men. Same old story. What about the frustration of same-gender couples? Of women who feel like it's open season on them? Of people with family on two sides of the border? Of Muslims and Sikhs who came here for the freedoms others take for granted?

My young friend talk about waiting for old people to die off so they can take over. Thanks, guys. We are not all heinous troglodytes, and we will be gone soon enough. Young people overwhelmingly voted against Trump-except in West Virginia. And I spoke at the gym I go to to one of the sweet young girls who works there. She didn't register to vote.

I'm not sure what to do. I'm just venting here, like everyone else has been doing. He was right about the system being rigged: only it was rigged in his favor, what with gerrymandering in many states, most notably North Carolina, voter ID laws in many places, and the way the electoral college is set up to favor small states that can be easily swayed with money, like West Virginia.

I've heard pundits and sociologists say we all have different ways of interacting. In New Yorker magazine, there was an article about how you have to be friendly to your neighbors, even if they put a sign for him on their lawn. No.

In California, people say "Hi!" to you and smile when they pass you on the street. It doesn't mean much, except to acknowledge your presence and that you belong. The locals in West Virginia always say they are friendly people, but I find, just walking around, that people will turn away from you or ignore you when they pass by. Maybe I need to look at more people as being my enemy, because in effect, that is what they are. "No, we don't hate you. Our religion tells us two men shouldn't marry." My answer to that is "If you voted for that guy, you have lost the right to start a sentence with "The Bible says...". Charity, acts of lovingkindness, welcoming the stranger? Aren't those in the Bible, or were you absent from Sunday school that day?"

Enough ranting for now. There will be consequences. And not just "unfollowing" people on Facebook. I did that a long time ago. I'm siding with the people I've lately learned about: the ones who use words like "intersectionality" and "microagression." The people who decide on their own what race and gender they are. I'm a queer, non-white religious minority, and if it comes to taking sides, that is who I am with.

I have two days to explore Camden County, New Jersey. Then I'll be back to real life in West Virginia.